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- Keeping the Faith: Guidance for Christian Women Facing Abuse
- The Confident Woman
- Narcissistic Lovers
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My current inspirations
Title: Keeping the Faith: Guidance for Christian Women Facing Abuse / Author: Marie M Fortune / Audience: Everyone / TIW Rating: *****
Fortune answers with compassion and from a Biblical perspective many of the questions Christians who have experience of abuse need answering. The question and answer format of the book avoids trivialising the issues, and instead makes it an easy read and useful reference tool. The book also has a section aimed at ‘clergy and laypersons’. It is an excellent starting point for those with experiences of abuse or those interested in the area. It has a thought provoking section on forgiveness and repentance which I would really be interested in receiving comments on!
I would highly recommend this book to ANYONE interested in domestic abuse and abuse generally. It would make an excellent gift for someone who has experience of abuse and will help someone consider how they should respond to someone who has experience of abuse. It can currently be picked up for less than a fiver. Inexpensive insights. Brilliant!
Title: The Confident Woman / Author: Joyce Meyer / Audience: Women / TIW Rating: *****
This book seems long overdue. There may be other good books out there that address similar issues but I have not come across them. It is great to read a book about being a woman of God, not about being a wife, or a women in relation to a man. Joyce Meyer’s book answers questions about women’s roles in society, church and at home. She mentions women’s rights, Paul’s teaching on women’s role in the church, and gives lots of examples from history and from her own life. She gives women the information necessary to grow in confidence in whatever the Lord has called them to do, and teaches how to deal with fear and other obstacles women might face. Her experience as a minister and her tender heart towards the issues are evident.
If you have had your confidence shaken as a result of being in an abusive relationship, or anything else, if you wonder whether your gender limits what you can do for God, or have a conflict between what you believe you are called to do and your beliefs or doctrine this book is for you. This book would benefit women young and old. I wish I had read it earlier and I will be reading it again!
Title: Narcissistic Lover: How to Cope, Recover and Move On / Author: Cynthia Zayn, Kevin Dibble / Audience: General / TIW Rating: ****
If you considered yourself strong and wise before getting into a relationship that has left you shattered, confused, doubting your judgement in general, questioning reality, while your ex seems to have moved on like you never existed, you could have been in a relationship with an N. Did s/he start off charming, wonderful, attentive, then became hostile, abusive, degrading overnight? This book could help you find some answers.
This book gives a good introduction Narcissist Personality Disorder or (clinical) Narcissism, as well as explaining how to get out and stay out if that is what you want. The authors are not psychologists or psychiatrists rather a researcher and a school teacher and the book is written in layman’s terms.
The examples and scenarios used throughout to illustrate points are particularly useful. However, a feature of this book which I found distracting is that it alternates referring to the N as he or she within chapter. I was frequently tempted to pull out a pen and edit the pronouns to suit my preference.
Title: Breaking Soul Ties / Author: Terri Savelle Foy / Audience: Victims of abuse / TIW Rating:*****
In this message Terrie candidly talks about her own experience of an abusive relationship. She provides a detailed explanation of ‘soul ties’ and talks listeners through practical steps to break free so that ‘God can do a new thing’ in their life. This is a useful message if you want to be free, once and for all, from a relationship that seems to have a hold over you that you cannot explain. Could it be because of soul ties?
This is not a recorded sermon, but a message recorded in a studio to deliver a particular message which adds to the personal feel. This message is available from the store on Terrie’s site www.terri.com and can be purchased as a CD or as an instantly downloadable mp3 message.
Title: Broken, Mended and Made Whole / Author: Terri Savelle Foy / Audience: Victims of abuse / TIW Rating:*****
Another great message full of personal experiences that enable listeners to relate to her personally. By telling of her pains and how God got her through Terri leads others to their own breakthrough. This is not a recorded sermon, but a message recorded in a studio to deliver a particular message to you. This message deals with the root causes of rejection, self-esteem issues and how to get to healed and whole – just the way God intended us to be.
This message is available from the store on Terrie’s site www.terri.com and can be purchased as a CD or as an instantly downloadable mp3 message.
Title: Freedom of Forgiveness / Author: Terri Savelle Foy / Audience: Victims / Survivors of abuse; Everyone / TIW Rating:*****
Possibly the most comprehensive and compassionate look at the F word that I have come across. Terrie Savelle Foy starts with why forgiving is good for us and why not forgiving is bad for us, including its role in the enemy’s plan. She continues with 6 signs we have not forgiven and gives practical steps toward forgiveness. Throughout her message she emphasises that “forgiveness does not make them right, it makes you free”. This message is a must buy and could well be something you return to over and over like I do.
This is not a recorded sermon, but a message recorded in a studio to deliver a particular message which adds to the personal feel. This message is available from the store on Terrie’s site www.terri.com and can be purchased as a CD or as an instantly downloadable mp3 file.
Websites and online documents
Title: Ending Domestic Abuse: A Pack for Churches / Author: Restored / Audience: Ministers / TIW Rating: *****
An excellent resource for church leaders including an introduction to domestic abuse, practical advice on how churches can challenge abusive behaviour and engage and support those with experience of domestic abuse, and a very useful theology section. A must for all churches. For more information about Restored visit www.restoredrelationships.org
Title: Men stopping violence materials / Author: The Presbyterians Against Domestic Violence Network / Audience: Ministers / TIW Rating: ****
Comprehensive – particularly the sections on Why should male ministers preach on domestic violence, and Ten things men can do to prevent gender violence. A must read for any minister regardless of denomination. Interesting assessment of domestic abuse intervention programmes. USA based. Although it acknowledges the various forms of domestic abuse there is a focus on physical abuse. Very useful nonetheless.
I am currently being inspired by…
- Make Your Dreams Bigger Than Your Memories, by Terri Savelle Foy
- Hearing From God Each Morning (365 Daily Devotions), by Joyce Meyer
- The Amplified Bible
- Why Does He Do That – Inside the minds of angry and controlling men, by Lundy Bancroft
Please note that these reviews and comments are my personal opinions.